Spontaneity. We all know how to define or describe this noun, but almost nobody of us is living it. With the rise of Self-Optimization and time-management courses spontaneity is on the decline. We treat ourselves as businesses, on the way to perfection with measuring every inch, every result, every achievement. But spontaneity can’t be measured, it happens or it doesn’t. There is no KPI to measure spontaneity. This is the reason why we often forget about it.

Spontaneity equals life

As simple as that. Sometimes things are simpler than expected. Although this doesn’t mean that it is easy to understand. So, maybe I have to refine the aforementioned: Spontaneity and our ability to be spontaneous equals what life makes so special. These random occasions we stumble across in unexpected moments, like meeting a nice girl somewhere and being able to start a conversation with her. Or a friend of a friend who asks you for joining a party, where you meet somebody amazing.

This is what I’m talking about. This is what I mean. The things we can’t calculate in advance. The things that unexpectedly make our life better (or sometimes worse, too). Sometimes amazing things aren’t predictable, no matter how good we were in planning. Because time-management is simple planning. Time-management describes our ability to efficiently use time to get things done.

Sounds sexy. Okay, at least it sounds productive. Like we have an idea how to use our time to get the best output possible. The most money, the most customers, you name it. And from a fixed standpoint seen, time-management or our ability to organize is the best way to get things done. But what if I tell you, that spontaneity can generate a higher output?

Spontaneity and the art of not knowing what comes next

Yes, I’m sure. But I wrote CAN, not must. So, what if I tell you that spontaneity in the beginning probably won’t give you a lot of output? But the biggest weakness of spontaneity is also its biggest strength: Unpredictability

You don’t know what your output will look like

Why do I see spontaneity as something so important in life? First of all, I have to admit that with stringent thinking and planning you may achieve your goal in a more “secure” and probably also faster way. But, with being spontaneous, you have one huge advantage: You learn. All the time. You learn from others, how they do things. You learn how things work out. While doing stuff which doesn’t fit perfectly in your “plan”.

Living life to the fullest

Yes, this is an old one. But I claim that spontaneity is together with mindfulness a key ingredient to enjoy fully what our lives have to offer. Simply put, spontaneity describes our ability to be open enough to new experiences, new people and exposes us in a good way. In a way, we can learn about ourselves and others. In a way we can enjoy and learn something about life.

From where I know this? From my own life! For several years, I was the guy planning events ahead, fitting occasions in my tight schedule and trying to be as productive as possible. But with all my efforts, my hard work and my productivity I often missed the pleasures in life. I simply had no eye for spontaneity. Whenever a spontaneous moment could have happened, I denied my participation. Only because my plans where fixed.

Only because I thought that my stringent way of thinking would lead to success. And actually, it did, but for this achievement I sacrificed maybe even greater success, who knows? What I do know now is that I definitely missed a lot of fun opportunities to meet amazing people, learn new things and grow myself while doing it.

Don’t get me wrong, having a plan is a good idea. But filling up your schedule with loads of appointments is a bad one. Leave some blanks to see what life is offering you. And use every chance you get, to learn. No matter if you are observing the behavior of others or by doing your own mistakes. Or by achieving your own successes.

Being spontaneous often means leaving your comfort zone. The place of your planned happenings. And this is exactly what you want to do to develop yourself. Because life isn’t about being prepared for certain situations, through hard-core planning. It’s about learning to act according to spontaneously happening moments.

Enjoy life

This is what I’m trying to do, once I discovered that time-management can’t be perfect. I learnt, that it can’t prepare us for everything. Simple things like meeting an acquaintance and talking to him or her can blow up our whole “plan”. The problem with hard-fixed plans is, that we won’t be able to enjoy such a situation. To listen fully and trying to understand. Instead our mind will be occupied with our own problems, and we won’t be able to move either forward or backward.

Don’t take time-management too seriously

That’s what I’ve learned. It’s fine to know the basics, but we shouldn’t let it define our entire day, week or even life. Instead we should be use our ability to walk through life with open eyes and ears, ready to enjoy the next spontaneity we are encountering, while still avoid forgetting about our values & goals.

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